Comparison is the name of the game in a gym. I hear it, I see it, I live it. In my classes I notice people work harder if the person next to them is working harder. I hear women tell other women that they wish their (insert body part here) looked more like her (insert...
Comparison
What a Trip to the Olympics Taught Me About Comparison
Watching the Olympics this Winter? Here's what a trip to the games taught me about comparison! There's a well-dressed woman who always slips into the sixth row at church. Obviously, she has it all together. Though she rushes in, she's somehow, always, right on time....
2 Reasons to Make Burden of Better the First Christian Book You Read this Year
Have you made resolutions? Maybe you've started the year with a great resolve to “improve” this, that, or everything? That was me. For decades. Then God showed me that the self-improvement treadmill was taking me nowhere. And, that's why I wrote this book, The Burden...
The Burden of Better is For: Working Women
Whether you’re working at home, climbing a corporate ladder, clocking in and out of shifts or setting your own hours—we women work hard. If I’m honest, I’m probably more likely than most men I know to “overwork.” It’s hard for me to rest. There’s always something else...
The Burden of Better is For: Single Women
Another bridesmaid dress. Another wedding in which I’d play a supporting role—when all I wanted was the lead. How many more bouquets did I need to catch to make it my turn? What was I doing wrong? Was I emitting an “I prefer to be single” code detected only by...
The Burden of Better is For: Church Girls
Church girls: Have you ever found yourself falling into the trap of comparison, even at church, the place where you grew up learning not to envy? I've certainly caught myself more than once. Don’t worry. There’s no way she felt my gaze. I stood on the balcony, hidden...
Looking for More Help? Affordable Christian Body Image Coaching
Affordable, effective, and God-honoring body image coaching is now more accessible than ever. If you need a Christian body image coach, look no further than Heather from Compared to Who? How much freedom could you find if you had someone to talk to about what's...
Podcast: Comparison and Social Media: Can Christians Engage in a Healthy Way?
As my new book, "The Burden of Better" releases this week, in this episode I explore how social media impacts us and I talk about ways God has personally been convicting me over my social media usage. Does time on Facebook alter my view of reality? Does Instagram help...
The Burden of Better is For: Joy Seekers
We know how joy gets stolen (Comparison IS the thief of joy, after all). But, where do you go to replenish it? How do you remain filled with joy even on days when you’re bloated, Zoom doesn’t work right during that important meeting, the kids are fighting, and the...
The Burden of Better is for: Perfectionists
This Christian book about perfectionism will lead you to new answers you've likely not heard before. Why? Because I think there's a little perfectionist in all of us. We’ve all spent way too long staring at a paragraph, or an art project, or our own appearance, trying...