I believe that comparison can give me comfort! As a woman I come by comparison naturally. I compare myself or my situation to someone’s and end up feeling hopeless--too discouraged to even try. So how can comparison give me comfort? When I stop comparing my human...
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Should You Keep Trying to Be Your Ideal Self?
From the other room I hear my children open and close the fridge door and shuffle through cardboard boxes in the pantry. They're hungry. Again. (It's been like a whole half-hour since they ate.) As they grab for another granola bar, I put another check mark on my...
Confidence With Great Reward: Quick Thoughts on Self-Confidence
Therefore do not throw away your confidence, which has a great reward. For you have need of endurance, so that when you have done the will of God you may receive what is promised. -Hebrews 10:35-36 Confidence. We toss the word around as if it's actually a personality...
Supposed: How To Not Be Overwhelmed With All You Are Supposed to Do
The last few weeks I've been battling depression and anxiety. I don't want to get up in the morning and when I finally do, all I dream of is the moment I can return under the covers. In the darkness of my room I feel shielded from all that the world demands of me. I...
Comparison versus Compassion
Comparison suffocates compassion. We forget that we're all the same--human beings, made in God's image, hungry for love, searching for truth, and longing for grace. Instead of extending that grace and love to each other--we compare, we envy, and we tear down. Yes, we...
How Do I Stop Comparing Myself to My Friend?
This post is a part of a series titled, "Questions about Body Image and Comparison." Here's today's question: Dear Heather: My best friend has a great figure. But she seems to do nothing to work at it. She eats what she wants and barely exercises, yet still looks...
Do You Know How You Were Designed?
I sit in the waiting area, listening to my nine-year-old son's computer class. I'm mentally transported to my college freshman year Intro to Math course, where Dr. Widmar spoke to us, with his back always to the blackboard, in some special language that only computer...
The Edge of the Brownies: Comparison Lessons for Chocolate Addicts
I didn't know that anyone preferred the crispy edge of the brownies. In fact, when someone invented the Edge Brownie Pan I thought, "That thing will never sell. No one likes those edges." For decades, I would systematically remove all the edges from the brownies as I...
Confessions of a Compare-aholic
My name is Becca, and I'm a compare-aholic. It takes many forms. Somedays I try to delude myself and call it "looking for inspiration." (You know that embarassing, guilty pleasure thing where we torment ourselves by sifting through social media and comparing every...
Can “Beautiful” People (Really) Understand Body Image Issues?
"Beautiful people" - they seem to be everywhere. On our screens. On billboards. In our news feeds. On the Compared to Who Contributors page. Wait??!?!?! What was that last one? Read Allyss' first CTW post and find out: Can "beautiful" people (really) understand body...